So what makes women sigh and tell their
girlfriends about a guy after the first time they make love? What makes a
man so appealing and successful with many women? Most men aren't very
clear on what they think a great lover is, but most would like to become one.
Rule one, women like to be listened to.
They like to feel that they are communicating with their partner. A man
that pays honest attention to his date can make her feel like she is important
and not just another body to him. Women are
much more likely to feel special and relaxed when the man they are with focuses
on them. Feeling more relaxed can lead to much better sex!
Most of the men that women consider great
lovers really truly LIKE women. A man that makes a woman feel liked is
going to be a man women like to be around. The average man in the street
makes jokes about women, and doesn't see them as friends, and it's not going to
get you on their good side.
A man who touches gently and doesn't rush when he is kissing,
touching or stroking makes a woman feel good. So many men want to get
through the kissing and the foreplay and go straight to the sex, but women don't
feel that way. It makes them feel less relaxed and less like having sex at
all. It certainly isn't the way to excite and stimulate most women.
Of course, a great lover knows all about the female body. He knows that most women
are turned on by gentle bites on the neck and throat while being held from
behind. He knows that gently pulling her head back with her hair while
kissing her is very exciting for a lot of women.
He also pays attention during sex, and listens to the sounds his lover makes -
or doesn't make. He works his way gradually to her nipples and her inner thighs.
If something makes her pull back a little, he is paying enough attention to
notice, and will stop immediately.
A lover that a woman will remember afterwards doesn't just stick in his penis and hammer
at her. He doesn't stop talking softly to her the minute that intercourse is
achieved. Unfortunately, most men do.
What really keeps most men from being great lovers that women remember with a
smile for years, is that they have a goal - and they act as if the woman is a
means to that goal. They are not sharing an experience or pleasure, they are
trying to get off.
Next time you are on a date with a woman, try listening to her - really
listening. Talk with her, get to really know her. Enjoy her company, don't focus
on the question of whether you will have sex with her later or anything other
than the time you are spending with her at that very moment. If you treat every
minute you spend with her in this way, and you do not rush, and you make her
feel special, she is going to feel great being with you - and that is the most
important first step toward being a great lover. You can find lots more
tips and techniques in
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men, and will aid you in becoming a red hot
lover! You and your partner will be assured of long lasting ecstasy in sex!
